May 27, 2013

Keeping It Real

Today's "Keeping It Real" post is mostly for the mom readers. This is an excerpt from an editorial written by Steve Wiens for the Huffington Post that resonated strongly with me . I think it's a nice reminder for all moms that we are doing the best we can. Because some days, the smoothie ends up all over the kitchen, the counter and your laptop and you do everything you can just to keep it together. Which in this case involved taking a picture of the Mini Fashionista freaking out! 

"If you are a parent of small children, you know that there are moments of spectacular delight, and you can't believe you get to be around these little people. But let me be the one who says the following things out loud:

You are not a terrible parent if you can't figure out a way for your children to eat as healthy as your friend's children do. She's obviously using a bizarre and probably illegal form of hypnotism.

You are not a terrible parent if you yell at your kids sometimes. You have little dictators living in your house. If someone else talked to you like that, they'd be put in prison.

You are not a terrible parent if you can't figure out how to calmly give them appropriate consequences in real time for every single act of terrorism that they so creatively devise.

You are not a terrible parent if you'd rather be at work.

You are not a terrible parent if you just can't wait for them to go to bed.

You are not a terrible parent if the sound of their voices sometimes makes you want to drink and never stop.

You're not a terrible parent.

You're an actual parent with limits. You cannot do it all. We all need to admit that one of the casualties specific to our information saturated culture is that we have sky-scraper standards for parenting, where we feel like we're failing horribly if we feed our children chicken nuggets and we let them watch TV in the morning.

One of the reasons we are so exhausted is that we are oversaturated with information about the kind of parents we should be.

So, maybe it's time to stop reading the blogs that tell you how to raise the next president who knows how to read when she's 3 and who cooks, not only eats, her vegetables. Maybe it's time to embrace being the kind of parent who says sorry when you yell. Who models what it's like to take time for yourself. "

So next time you have a "smoothie" moment and want to ship your child to Siberia, take a deep breath and remember you are not a terrible parent. 


  1. I love this! Thanks for postng.

  2. Thanks for posting this article.

  3. Oh this is perfect - thanks for posting!